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I’ve read this many times since it appeared earlier today. Shed a tear or two. 

A sister’s eulogy for Steve Jobs. Sublime. Haunting. Heartbreaking.  

The journey. 

He was never embarrassed about working hard, even if the results were failures.

He was willing to be misunderstood.


Novelty was not Steve’s highest value. Beauty was.  

His philosophy of aesthetics reminds me of a quote that went something like this: “Fashion is what seems beautiful now but looks ugly later; art can be ugly at first but it becomes beautiful later.”

Steve always aspired to make beautiful later.


Love was his supreme virtue, his god of gods. 

He believed that love happened all the time, everywhere. In that most important way, Steve was never ironic, never cynical, never pessimistic.

Life & Death. 

None of us knows for certain how long we’ll be here.

We all — in the end — die in medias res. In the middle of a story. Of many stories.

What I learned from my brother’s death was that character is essential: What he was, was how he died.

The Journey. 

Before embarking, he’d looked at his sister Patty, then for a long time at his children, then at his life’s partner, Laurene, and then over their shoulders past them.

Steve’s final words were:


Tolstoy's 10 Rules for Living

He figured this out when he was 18.

  1. Get up early (five o’clock)
  2. Go to bed early (nine to ten o’clock)
  3. Eat little and avoid sweets
  4. Try to do everything by yourself
  5. Have a goal for your whole life, a goal for one section of your life, a goal for a shorter period and a goal for the year; a goal for every month, a goal for every week, a goal for every day, a goal for every hour and for evry minute, and sacrifice the lesser goal to the greater
  6. Keep away from women
  7. Kill desire by work
  8. Be good, but try to let no one know it
  9. Always live less expensively than you might
  10. Change nothing in your style of living even if you become ten times richer

Live a Life you Love

All five tips are essential, but this one particularly struck a chord with me.

Nurture friendships – You know the people who for some reason or other welcome you into their lives? Treasure them. Make time to spend with them. It is those relationships that you’ll look back on with satisfaction when you get old and begin to wonder what your life was worth… Many of us spend far too much time thinking about how some material possession will improve our lives. An iMac would be nice. A good friend is worth just about everything though!

Happy Thanksgiving weekend, y’all!

Be Playful

Something I try really hard to do. It’s all in the mind, though.

Do you remember how to play? I’m not referring to playing a round of golf or a set of tennis. I’m talking about playing like you did when you were a child – a game of tag, leap frog, or street baseball when the bat is a broken broom handle and the bases are the parked cars. One way to find or maintain your happiness is to remember the kid you were and play!

Even at work, an attitude of living in the present and a single minded focus on the task at hand can help you.

And, most of all it could help destroy fear, which is so counter-productive.